Dear Aunty Temilolu,
I masturbate and watch pornography frequently. Whenever I am in church, I pray to God and promise I won’t do it again but after two, three days, I go back to it. Every time I pick my phone, I read erotic books online which makes me sensual then I end up watching pornography and masturbating. Also, I can’t sleep well at night because I think about my ex-boyfriend a lot. He is a teacher at my tutorial centre. He asked me to date him, I accepted and then he invited me to visit him at home. On getting there, he descended heavily on me, touching me all over. I was confused because I didn’t want to have sex with him. I began pleading and telling him to stop but my resistance was very weak and my pleas were not convincing because I was aroused. Then he told me to do something that makes me want to vomit anytime I think about it. Even the sight was scary and that was how I regained my senses and left his house. I thank God I wasn’t raped that day. We broke up but I still have feelings for him. He told me he had a girlfriend but needed a side chick. He said it was no big deal to have sex and that I’d surely do it when I get into the university.
Mummy, I really need your advice. My feelings are getting out of hand and I don’t respect God anymore. My conscience pricks me. I don’t know who to speak to about this issue. My mum would kill me and I don’t have any friend I can talk to about it. Help me ma!
My darling Deborah,
I love you because I can see in you a good girl who finds herself doing what she probably doesn’t want to do but which she can’t control and that in turn is now controlling her! (Please pardon my crafting. I’m trying to express myself as much as I can.) However, as much as I love your innocence though your mind has been raped, I think you are also foolish-very foolish my sweet! How can a guy tell you to your face that he has a girlfriend and needs a side chick and you fall for him? You are indeed a baby! And what business has a baby got with a boyfriend? I guess your teacher knows that among the girls he’s tutoring, you are an innocent girl he can mess around with. I thank God with all my heart that He who is evidently around you pulled you out of a satanic trap and suppressed the devil in your teacher by not allowing him to rape you! I wonder where you told your parents you were going. I bet he is a randy guy who has taken advantage of and slept with too many girls at your tutorial centre. Why should he tell you that you’d end up having sex in the university anyway? What a pervert!!!
In the first instance, your parents unconsciously got you into trouble by giving you a phone that can help you reach porn sites. But can we blame them? You probably needed a smartphone to aid your studies as well. Your curiosity about sex got the better of you and that pushed you into watching pornography and masturbating which is not only addictive but very destructive and which may not be so easy to get out of unless you are very determined. (However, I can assure you, you are on your way out of it. I’ll guide you on that.) And then your lesson teacher begins to turn your head. Can you imagine what would have happened if he got you pregnant? I guess he would bolt leaving you to face the consequence or get you to terminate it either by hook or by crook. Where are you running to? You are supposed to be facing your studies squarely and he is meant to be coaching you to gather good grades that will get you an admission into the university! You have no business thinking about him. He’s just a devil from the pit of hell who wants to disrupt your glorious destiny! DON’T SPARE HIM A THOUGHT! I understand the emotional pressure of your age but if you don’t get rid of these feelings now, it would affect your concentration and getting required grades to get into the university. You need to love yourself first. What can he offer you now but trouble? In future, you are going to meet an array of fantastic, more successful and above all godly guys who can complement you and add value to your beautiful life!
My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,
I keep telling you, you’d do yourself a world of good by avoiding the distraction called boyfriend in your teens and taking your mind off sex.
Mothers, if your daughters cannot confide in you who brought them into the world, be expecting trouble because the devil takes over!
To be continued.
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