Enough topical issues trended on the social media, recently.
One of such was a hash tag admonishing men to carry out a DNA test on every child born to them. The argument is supported with the(now) famous words of a DNA expert, who claimed that “three out of ten Nigerian men are not biological fathers of their children.”
The often ‘amused me’ is tempted to ask if we really expect a different claim. I mean, at the end of the day…it’s about seeking ways to ‘sell’ one’s services.
To me…any man that has had reasons to question his woman’s ‘conduct’ in their marriage has EVERY reason to carry out a DNA test on his children. But unwise is that man who can even ‘think’ of (probably after reading stuffs on the social media) DNA on his children…from a woman who has never given him any reason to doubt her loyalty in their marriage.
If I were the woman in such a union…we MUST do as you said. But with the caveat that you should also take responsibility for whatever shape things take (onward) in the union.
Not many marriages will be the same again-after a DNA saga.
And it’s not because the results turned out to prove anybody’s suspicion true but because someone (whom you should TRUST) feels deeply betrayed.
To some people who give nothing but ‘their all’ in a setting…getting yourself to suspect them of any foul play is even worse than heaping the allegation ‘proper’ on them.
Again…people’s views on issues can’t always be divorced from their experiences. Or outright ignorance.
Therefore, it’s most foolhardy to ‘pocket’ and actually begin to act out (in your marriage) the views of someone who’s coming from ‘an experience.’
We are in a ‘quick information’ age…always filter what you take home. But most importantly…mind the claims/views that you take to heart.
This is the time to guard your home/marriage jealously. There are still honourable men/women in the land.
Also, realise how short this life is and stop entertaining unnecessary headache.
If your home front is relatively stable and you get what you need from your spouse, stay contented.
Countless studies have shown that men do not recover completely from a failed marriage.
I am not excusing ‘waywardness or deceit of any kind’ in women.
In fact, certain ‘secret’ (whenever the ‘cover up’ is threatened) can kill one many times in a lifetime!
There can’t be a worse punishment-for one who values her peace of mind/sanity.
Sometimes, it’s better to go and face your ‘choices’…than sitting on what is rather a keg of gunpowder. It’s only a matter of time.
A friend had all male (children) with his late wife. While a friend of his and the wife have all females.
Recently, the woman went to him… seeking ‘solution’ to her problem.
Having all female children!
According to her…
The in-laws never ceased to remind her that as far as they are concerned-she hasn’t given them an heir, yet.
The husband has become ‘distant’ in their marriage.
Hence, her efforts at seeking a ‘solution.’
You and I know that the ‘solution’ she seeks isn’t far from trying for a ‘male’ child with the other man.
In this environment…a wife will most likely realise the husband cannot father a child-long before he even understands his condition.
That’s because our men are so deluded on fertility issues.
And when he does-rather than seek a holistic solution…he will embark on ‘proving his manliness.’
We do not yet understand the DESPERATE nature of the human mind in dire circumstances.
Otherwise, our men would have long become a tad humane in how they handle issues bordering on childlessness and the preference for a particular sex of a child- in marriages!
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